Love & The Goddess Page 5
There was one I thought of as “the auld fellah”. Looking ancient enough to be my father, he was pictured sitting in a big brown armchair dressed in his Sunday best, grey hair parted to the side. He called himself “sexyboy”. A message from him said, “Hi sexy, would you like to meet up?” “No thanks,” I felt like saying. “Not on a desert island, even if I hadn’t met anybody else for ten years.” I decided not to answer that one and made a mental note that if he cropped up again l’d have to block him because seeing him would make me rush to take the vow of celibacy and exchange my lodgings for a real convent.
Someone else was using a picture of Ben Stiller, which I did not immediately recognize as I didn’t consider him to be the archetypical heart-throb actor. Set among this lot, however, he stood out as drop-dead gorgeous. Another picture featured a man wearing a dinner-suit, seated at an outdoor garden table looking like a 1970s advertisement for Mateus Rosé. I hadn’t contacted anyone apart from the doctor, but I’d trawled through countless profiles in the age group forty-five to fifty. I was the new kid on the block and the site highlighted new users. Some contacts, noticing that I’d checked their profile, messaged back, “Thanks for checking me out. I hope you like what you saw lol.” (What on earth did ‘lol’ mean?) Some didn’t seem to bother reading about me while others read my profile too literally, failing to see the joke – just as Ella had predicted.
A message from “Bobdbuilder” was similar to several others asking about my Bollywood career:
Inbox:
From:Bobdbuilder
Subject: famous
I was thinking you looked like someone famous. Which Bollywood film were you in?
Fancy meeting up for a drink?
Bob
Reply:
From: Persephone
Subject: It’s a joke
Sorry to confuse you, but if you read my profile carefully you’ll see it’s a joke. I am a teacher.
Kate
The next one made me laugh so I answered it:
Inbox:
From: iwanttofly
Subject: pretty
Hi sweetie. Youre lookin so pretty in your dress. Youre lookin jus like a butterfly comin out a flower.
Reply: From: Persephone
Subject: re. pretty
Thanks for your compliment. I wouldn’t mind having a pair of wings.
Kate
This was absurd. I hadn’t spoken to anyone in such a babyish manner since Julie was six years old. Iwanttofly sent me three more emails about me looking like a butterfly, possibly on account of my picture showing me wearing a silver and pink lace dress, which I’d worn as a guest at a wedding. I saw he was Greek, so that explained his poor spelling. Others had no such excuse. As I scanned through my mail, my inner teacher kicked in, spotting bad grammar and spelling along with a general level of immaturity usually associated with pre-adolescents. The usernames were by and large uninspired and some of them were an absolute turn-off. Take “spudsgalore”. I wondered if he grew potatoes or gave a bag of spuds to the love of his life rather than a bouquet of flowers? Hmm – maybe that was romantic if it was given with love?
Someone with no picture mistook “adventurous” for a willingness to be “up for it sexually” and asked me was I interested in a threesome. As I blocked him, I wondered what on earth I was exposing myself to.
Yesterday I’d bought a cheap pay-as-you-go phone registered under a fake name and address. I’d also set up a separate email for the dating business. I really was beginning to feel like a Russian spy. And I had a strange feeling of guilt – given that I was a mother, this did not seem quite proper. Also, I was a teacher responsible for sending students out into the world and this dating business felt juvenile. But perhaps it was my time to be silly and throw a certain amount of caution to the wind. I’d always followed the rules and been a sensible girl and look where that had got me.
One of the few men to understand my profile without my having to send several explanatory emails was a man called “Wordsmith”, aka Alan. After exchanging a few friendly emails, I agreed to speak with him on the phone. And since we chatted like old friends, I agreed to meet him when his work brought him to Galway later that week. He told me he was an agricultural consultant with a passion for writing, and seemed well grounded with a good sense of humour. Also, he was very sympathetic about my break-up and offered me advice about how best to handle my divorce. The only problem was that afterwards I felt that I had shared too many personal details, despite Ella’s repeated warnings whenever she rang to find out how I was getting on with the site. Quite simply, he had the kind of manner and voice that seemed to inspire the sharing of confidences – rather like a priest in a confessional.
A few days later, as I scanned through my mail on the site, a new message came in from “Wordsmith” asking me would this evening suit to meet up, and if so where?
I messaged him back, suggesting the nearby Ardilaun hotel would be ideal.
I hadn’t anticipated being so nervous. After all, this was not a guy I expected to fancy – although I knew I couldn’t be sure of that until I’d met him. Arriving into the hotel bar ten minutes late, I did a quick scan of the room. I immediately thought he must not have shown up, and was oddly comforted by that thought. A man and woman in their thirties sat at one of the low tables. Several men sat in the extreme right corner drinking beer, their bodies tense with excitement as they watched a replay of the day’s rugby match. Then I spotted an elderly man dressed in a crumpled jacket worn over a grey round-neck sweatshirt. He nodded in my direction as he descended from a bar stool. I turned around to see if there was someone behind me whom he had recognised… then froze as it dawned on me that this stooped grey-haired man could be “Wordsmith”. But he had named salsa dancing and Tai Chi as his hobbies! And his photo had projected such a vibrant, youthful image!
“Hey, Kate. How are you?” He extended his hand to me, while bending to kiss me on the right cheek. A whiff of something musty immediately assailed my nostrils. I glanced distractedly at the bar, wondering if it had been wiped with a dirty dishcloth. God, after spending so many years living with Trevor, had I become as cantankerous as him?
“I’m good. Sorry for being late. I hope you weren’t waiting long?”
“No. Just enough time to get a gin and tonic.” He led me in the direction of the bar where his glass stood almost empty, and I climbed on to the stool beside him. “What would you like to drink?”
“A glass of water, please.”
“Oh, come on. That’s not a drink. You should be celebrating your freedom. You’re free of your husband now, Kate. It’s the start of your new, exciting life.”
“All right then, one gin and tonic. After that, just water.”
Alan turned out to be pleasant to chat with and quite forthcoming about his own experience of marriage breakdown, having been divorced ten years with three grown-up boys. But when I looked at his grey face with its loose jowls, wide nose and bulging eyes, I was reminded of a toad. He looked considerably older than his photograph and he soon confessed to having lied online about his age – he was fifty-two, not forty-five, and looked even older than that. Despite my initial eagerness to meet any man who could possibly fancy me, it had turned out to be quite different in reality. On most profiles, the men talked about the need for chemistry. I’d had loads of chemistry with Trevor – before Martha, at any rate – so I’d begun to wonder if it was that important after all. Now looking at this guy, I figured out that when chemistry was lacking, I’d have more fun playing bingo with OAPs.
Alan regaled me with his dating stories. “Lots of women are just online purely for sex. Seriously! I’ve had loads of women contact me asking to meet up. Some of them married women. Once I tell them my job brings me round the country, the offers come flying in.”
I studiously sipped my drink in an effort to hide my face, which had surely turned pink from embarrassment. Recovering myself, I pitched a bold question and made direct eye contact. I
was not going to let him intimidate me. “And do they say they’re only interested in sex?”
“Oh, yeah. Definitely.” He briefly touched my knee. “And some of the women have told me about strange men they met on the sites. You need to be careful, Kate. An attractive woman like you. There are a lot of very weird people out there. It’s not so easy to meet someone right.”
“I can well imagine. I don’t really know what I’m doing online, to be quite honest with you – I’m still traumatised by my marriage ending. I probably wouldn’t be able to form a relationship just yet.”
“Well, don’t rule it out because you can never predict when you’ll meet the right person. Life doesn’t work that way. So stay open.” He touched my arm reassuringly. “You need someone to talk to, Kate. It’s good to talk to someone like me who has been through the same thing because the early stage is very raw.”
“Thanks, Alan. That’s kind of you. Your phone calls have been a support.” Suddenly aware that I’d had two gins and tonics to Alan’s four, I asked the waiter for a glass of water. Never one to tolerate much alcohol, I was now feeling somewhat disorientated.
“You are such an incredible woman. Your husband must be a very foolish man to let you go.”
These words brought tears of self pity to my eyes and I found myself telling Alan about Martha stealing Trevor from under my nose. What had come over me? “I don’t know why I told you that.” I anxiously squeezed my hands together on my lap. Cupping his hands over mine, Alan gazed at me reassuringly,
“It’s good to get it off your chest. It’ll help you heal. You can trust me.” He moved so close I felt my personal space being invaded. Now I realised where the moldy smell came from. Alan’s clothes smelt musty, like he’d slept in them for the past five months without washing. I was sure I could also detect sour milk and silage. I knew he acted as a consultant to dairy farmers, but surely the least he could do was wash before meeting a woman for the first time? On top of that, it seemed like Alan felt my confidences allowed him to presume I was easy prey.
As he finished his fourth gin, he again touched my knee. Then he grabbed my wrist tightly and – locking my eyes with a narrow gaze – blurted, “Now that I’ve met you, Kate, I’m never going to let you go.”
Aagh! Yuch! Alarm bells were going off left, right and centre as my stomach heaved. I’m not going to be a bird in a cage for you or anyone. It was difficult not to show my horror, yet I didn’t feel I could go just yet. Wishing to change the mood and give his hands the slip, I asked him about his love of reading and creative writing. “I love Oscar Wilde’s wit and use of language.” I freed my hands from under his, and sipped at my water.
“Oscar Wilde was not a great writer. His language is overly descriptive – too flowery. He’s not in James Joyce’s league. I’m presently doing an evening course in creative writing and everyone says my writing style is similar to Joyce’s. You need to forget about Wilde.” He patted my knee.
I covered my mouth to stifle a yawn. I had trusted this man and now he thought I was so naïve that he could completely dominate me by overruling every opinion I held. His clothes were not the only things stinking up the atmosphere – his arrogant attitude had a pong all of its own. I disliked him more with each passing minute spent in his company. Now a flurry of yawns were emerging from behind my hand. I glanced at the clock on the wall. “God, I never realised it was so late. I should go now.”
“You look exhausted, Kate. What you need is a good massage to liven you up and help get rid of all that tension. I did a course in sports massage.” He looked at me in the way a priest would when offering spiritual advice, his tone mellifluous as he continued. “I’d love to see the new apartment you told me about. Do you want me to come back with you?”
“No thanks. I really have to go.” I hopped off the barstool, grabbing my bag. “I have an appointment in the morning.”
“Hey! Hang on a minute! Kate!” he called to my fast disappearing back.
Freedom had suddenly become a much cherished commodity as I escaped to what now seemed like the bliss of solitude.
Chapter Six
Emails on the dating website were mostly ridiculous but for the first time in my life I was placated by empty flattery, partly due to the fact I didn’t necessarily have to deal with the person behind it. Strangers telling me I sounded interesting or looked great was the ego boost I craved, irrespective of whether it carried less substance than a sickly-sweet giant lollipop. It had become increasingly compulsive to log on and see if anyone interesting had contacted me. Although from now on, I would be more careful about baring my inner thoughts. I had learnt my lesson.
After entering my password, the site highlighted that I had five emails in my inbox. I opened the first one to find “Iwanttofly” now telling me I looked like a flower and asking if I would meet him for coffee. I really didn’t see that as a runner.
The next few were all inane small talk. I opened the final one: “How about you and I meet to explore the hidden world beneath the sheets?” I flushed hotly. Who did this man think he was to address me as though I was a hooker for hire? A look at his profile told me he was a hypnotist from Bulgaria living in Dublin. With a curly moustache, he looked like a circus ringmaster – a right control freak with glinty eyes under thick dark brows. I was in the middle of blocking him when a new email popped up. To my utter astonishment it was a reply from “Serotonin”, aka the doctor Ella and I had spotted on the first night.
Inbox:
Hi Kate,
Delighted to hear from you. I would love to take you out to dinner the next time you are in Dublin. Just let me know. I attach my contact details. Maybe you could text me yours and we can arrange to meet up.
Eddie
Reply:
Hi Eddie,
Great to hear from you. I will be in Dublin next Friday night if that suits. What part of Dublin do you live in? Maybe we could chat on the phone beforehand? I will text you my number.
Kate
Since Ella had warned me about men not being who they said they were, I decided to conduct an internet search for the doctor. Up came three pages on a cosmetic surgeon in Dublin. My initial reaction was to think this could not possibly be him, as nobody in that position would ever go on a dating site. Then Ella’s voice rang in my head, telling me to stop being so prejudicial.
I checked his details and clicked on his clinic’s website, cosmosclinic.com. Scrolling down their list of specialists, I found him listed with a photograph – undeniably the same person with whom I was in correspondence. A press release issued by the clinic cited it as one of the top centres for cosmetic surgery in Ireland, with Dr Commins’s speciality being facial reconstruction after accidents. How noble, I thought, but it probably means he’s totally out of my league. I was sure he must have an endless supply of young women running after him. But there was no harm in trying. At least I could find out if I could possibly be a contender at my age.
Late Friday afternoon, I arrived at my parents’ house in Dublin with my hair freshly blow-dried in loose curls. I’d done my make-up before leaving and was wearing a deceptively simple silk dress with an overall print in subtle shades of smokey brown and tan. With leggings underneath it looked quite casual teamed with brown ballerina pumps. It would be easy to swap the flats for higher heels before heading out on my date. The fabric made me feel feminine and flirty and it felt good to make an effort to dress up. I would get my mojo back and prove to myself that Trevor had been wrong to turf me out.
It was oddly consoling to be back among the familiar walls of my parents’ simple four-storey house, with the comforting scent of lavender, geranium and lemon pervading every room – my mother had a penchant for making her own pot-pourri.
“Kate, you’re looking very glamorous,” my mother said, taking me in from head to toe before kissing me on the cheek. She looked well after her holiday. The sun had faded her auburn highlights somewhat and her skin was turning from sunburned to lightly tanned.
Judging by the fit of her floral blouse, she had recently gained a little weight around her once-slim waist.
“This is the new me, Mam,” I said, twirling. “I’ve changed my style since the break- up. They say looking well is the best revenge and I feel freer dressing like this rather than in the suits Trevor liked me wearing.”
“Hello, Kate,” my father said, as I walked through the kitchen door. “You look very pretty. Is there a new man on the scene?”
“Don’t be silly – what on earth are you asking her that for?” My mother still hoped I would get back with Trevor. I was the dreamer she had constantly worried about. The day I’d announced my engagement to Trevor, she’d felt all her prayers were answered in one fell swoop. At long last, her youngest daughter had someone to take care of her and save her from herself. She’d always worried about me ending up with an out-of-work artist or musician.
“No-one apart from you, Daddy.” I pecked him on the cheek. Flattery always worked with my father, although, more rebellious than my older sister Liz, I had almost always resisted pandering to him. Maybe it wouldn’t hurt to start now, as a means of deflecting attention away from myself and at the same time making an old man happy. Slightly taken aback by my change in attitude, he smiled bashfully before beaming his trademark megawatt smile. Though my father was reserved he had a natural charm which came forth whenever he felt relaxed. For a handsome man, I could never understand his innate lack of confidence. Taking a tin foil container from my shopping bag, I placed it on the table in front of him. “I made you a Bailey’s cheesecake, Dad. Forgive the tin foil, but it travels best this way. Tastes the same as always.” I’d learned at fourteen that the way to his heart was definitely via his taste buds. He’d started praising me for the first time in my life, when I cooked for him during the week my mother was in hospital with pneumonia. His words had stuck in my head until now: “You’re an alchemist, capable of transforming base ingredients into ambrosia, food of the Gods.” This was proof that finally I had come to exist as a viable person in my father’s world.